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Episode 76  |  11:13 min

#74 Finding Your Why

Episode 76  |  11:13 min  |  06.07.2017

#74 Finding Your Why

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This is a podcast episode titled, #74 Finding Your Why. The summary for this episode is: If you liked this episode, we bet that you’ll love our blog content. blog.drift.com/#subscribe Subscribe to never miss a post & join the 20,000+ other pros committed to getting better every day. ----- What motivates someone to work and grow? Their inspiration. Their why. We’re getting up close and personal with Dave and David to talk about their “whys” and how they found the things that fuel them. This week on Seeking Wisdom, you can find your “why” too. -- Here’s how you can support Seeking Wisdom if you’re a fan of the show: 1. Subscribe on your favorite podcast app. 2. Leave us a five-star review. Here's how: bit.ly/5-Stars-Only. 3. Follow David (twitter.com/dcancel) and Dave (twitter.com/davegerhardt) on Twitter. 4. Learn more about Drift at Drift.com. PS. Get your HYPERGROWTH tickets using the promo code SEEKINGWISDOM and save $600 at hypergrowth.drift.com Yes.
If you liked this episode, we bet that you’ll love our blog content. blog.drift.com/#subscribe Subscribe to never miss a post & join the 20,000+ other pros committed to getting better every day. ----- What motivates someone to work and grow? Their inspiration. Their why. We’re getting up close and personal with Dave and David to talk about their “whys” and how they found the things that fuel them. This week on Seeking Wisdom, you can find your “why” too. -- Here’s how you can support Seeking Wisdom if you’re a fan of the show: 1. Subscribe on your favorite podcast app. 2. Leave us a five-star review. Here's how: bit.ly/5-Stars-Only. 3. Follow David (twitter.com/dcancel) and Dave (twitter.com/davegerhardt) on Twitter. 4. Learn more about Drift at Drift.com. PS. Get your HYPERGROWTH tickets using the promo code SEEKINGWISDOM and save $600 at hypergrowth.drift.com Yes.

Speaker 1: Okay. We are recording. We are recording. We're recording. We are not recording yet.

Speaker 2: inaudible.

Speaker 1: We are or not recording yet. The hit factory.

Speaker 2: Mm- hmm( affirmative).

Speaker 1: All right.

Speaker 3: Sign here and sign here. Are we live?

Speaker 2: I had to show DG some grown man shit.

Speaker 1: Grown man.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 1: Can't even do this.

Speaker 2: No.

Speaker 1: Whatever else you want.

Speaker 2: crosstalk

Speaker 1: You want.

Speaker 2: Trouble.

Speaker 1: Trouble.

Speaker 2: Leah. Leah. Please?

Speaker 1: crosstalk.

Speaker 2: Leah would've taken care of this. Right?

Speaker 1: Oh my God.

Speaker 2: crosstalk.

Speaker 1: Like.

Speaker 2: crosstalk.

Speaker 1: You don't realize how many things you can't do right.

Speaker 2: Mm- hmm(affirmative).

Speaker 1: Until you get in those situations. Like, I didn't know. There was a wrong way to take out the trash, but there is.

Speaker 2: Definitely is. Yeah.

Speaker 1: There is. Okay. All right. So, we're going to do. Today, here's what we're going to talk about.

Speaker 2: Okay.

Speaker 1: You sent me a message this morning.

Speaker 2: Mm- hmm( affirmative).

Speaker 1: About finding your'why'.

Speaker 2: Okay.

Speaker 1: And I love topic.

Speaker 2: Are we doing that one?

Speaker 1: Yes, we're going to do that one.

Speaker 2: It's apropos.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Cause you can't do grown man stuff, right here.

Speaker 1: Yeah. Cool.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay.

Speaker 1: So, you just had a epiphany this morning? Or have you had this thought before?

Speaker 2: I've had this thought for a long time.

Speaker 1: So, finding your'why'?

Speaker 2: But I was thinking about you.

Speaker 1: Finding your'why'. Thinking about me.

Speaker 2: But you needed to.

Speaker 1: Level up big time.

Speaker 2: Cause.

Speaker 1: Yes.

Speaker 2: Is about to have, I don't know if we've talked about this on podcast.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: He has a kid coming.

Speaker 1: I do.

Speaker 2: Next month.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Less than a month away.

Speaker 1: Less than a month.

Speaker 2: Okay. He can't figure out a pop filter on this microphone, but he's got a kid coming--

Speaker 1: All right.

Speaker 2: --that he needs to provide for.

Speaker 1: I do.

Speaker 2: And so I said, let's do a podcast on finding your'why'.

Speaker 1: I love that.

Speaker 2: Right? And we've talked a little bit about finding your'why' before, really in the Simon Sinek context. Great book starts with'why'. But this is really about helping us. Each of us kind of think about the need to find your'why' and your source of inspiration to kind of fuel you in whatever you want to grow in.

Speaker 1: So, you said to me in this message, you're like, let's do a podcast about finding your'why'. And what I love is that you said, you didn't really find it until the early 30s. 30.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative).

Speaker 1: 32.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative).

Speaker 1: You said, you thought you found it before.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 1: You had. inaudible You at 32, you had probably had two companies.

Speaker 2: Yes.

Speaker 1: You had actually done. You had done some stuff. Yeah. You did accomplish some things.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 1: But you didn't. Did you think you found your'why'?

Speaker 2: No. I knew I was phoning.

Speaker 1: crosstalk And you knew you were trying to. Okay.

Speaker 2: Yeah. So I was telling DG that, it wasn't until I was older than--

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: --DGis now--

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: --thatI found my'why'. And before that I had started some companies, I had done a few things, interesting things, but I think I was phoning it in. And, I really didn't have that source of inspiration, and that source of fuel that I have today, I don't know if you would call it fuel.

Speaker 1: It is whatever is way more than fuel.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 1: That's what it is.

Speaker 2: I didn't have that before.

Speaker 1: Okay.

Speaker 2: And so--

Speaker 1: And then what happened?

Speaker 2: And what happened was, we had my daughter.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Right?

Speaker 1: Shout out CJ.

Speaker 2: Shout out CJ, boss level 100.

Speaker 1: Mm-hmm(affirmative).

Speaker 2: Yeah. And so my daughter, CJ. We found out we were going to have a kid. CJ was coming and then that instantly clicked in me. And I became a different person. If you were to ask my wife, she would say that before that time, and she doesn't even know why this switch happened in me, that I was nicer and I was more laid back.

Speaker 1: Man. You we're so soft. And more laid back.

Speaker 2: I was more laid back and then--

Speaker 1: crosstalk.

Speaker 2: --youchanged, then you changed. And I changed because all of a sudden I had this--

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: --burning urgency inside of me of like, I needed to step up. I needed to focus because I had a kid coming.

Speaker 1: Yep.

Speaker 2: And I needed to change everything and flip everything.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: And that's where the DC that, you know, today. Kind of, this growth mindset focus started that day.

Speaker 1: I love that. And we also got a good story from Armin, our VP of sales. He said, he was on a bike ride with his nine year old niece. And she said, I got to have a growth mindset.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 1: I love that.

Speaker 2: I can't have a static mindset.

Speaker 1: The thing that I like though, is that, you said to me, it's not just about, you needed to make more money, whatever. Cause you had a kid, you said the biggest thing was like, you wanted to have a legacy.

Speaker 2: Mm- hmm( affirmative).

Speaker 1: And have it be about more than just you.

Speaker 2: Yes.

Speaker 1: Which I thought, that was like the perfect connection into finding your'why'.

Speaker 2: So let's hope that DG, that is having a kid in a month, then a month from now, he will have found his'why'.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: And stepped up.

Speaker 1: Yeah. Nobody. Look, I can tell you, nobody is more excited about me having a baby than DC, because that means, if I'm going to find this,'why' that is going to be a fire.

Speaker 2: I'm so excited about this kid coming. I cannot wait.

Speaker 1: All right. So, how do you, like. What's the takeaway? What is the takeaway though for people today?

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative).

Speaker 1: Like how do you, how do you go and try to find that? How do you find the,'why'? It could be, maybe you have a kid maybe that, rechange, it focuses you a little bit changes your perspective?

Speaker 2: Go have a kid.

Speaker 1: Go have.

Speaker 2: I'm joking.

Speaker 1: Seeking wisdom babies.

Speaker 2: I'm joking.

Speaker 1: That's the next trend.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Seeking wisdom babies. Yeah. We're going to make a fortune in onesies.

Speaker 1: Yes, we are.

Speaker 2: Onesies and seeking wisdom diapers.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: No, I think it's a hard thing, because I couldn't have artificially created it. What I think is useful for everyone else is to understand if you are still seeking that. Right. And finding that and put the emphasis on trying to find what is the thing that motivates you and why are you doing this? And identify that before you go and try to do something.

Speaker 1: I like that you can't manufacture it. It's kind of like when we talked about strengths and weaknesses.

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative).

Speaker 1: And you said, here's a good way to find your weaknesses. Look at all the things that you keep putting off. Then those are your weaknesses.

Speaker 2: Yeah.

Speaker 1: Same thing here. Right? You can't sit down and with a notebook and be like--

Speaker 2: I found it.

Speaker 1: --when am I wise? When am I wise? Right. It's got to be that thing that you--

Speaker 2: It's this process that's...

Speaker 1: --keepcoming back to. Same thing we've talked about. Like starting companies or whatever job you have to have that real passion.

Speaker 2: Yep. And you have to find that. And so, these things that we talk about sometimes are more about like understanding the context or where you are kind of in the whole spectrum. And then, once you know that, then that gives you power, right? To really understand where I need to focus.

Speaker 1: Mm- hmm( affirmative). Okay. So.

Speaker 2: So, when do you think you're wise?

Speaker 1: Oh man, that's a good question. So it's hard because, I think I have one.

Speaker 2: I think you do.

Speaker 1: I think I already have one.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 1: And I think it's like. We've talked about a lot, having a chip on your shoulder.

Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: You know, didn't plan to be here and that stuff happens. And so for me, that's like, nobody in my family, so it was, starting a business or that you never thought about this stuff. So, that's the stuff that motivates me, but I think you're right. I think having a kid will be a whole different perspective.

Speaker 2: I think it brings it up a level.

Speaker 1: Is way more at stake.

Speaker 2: Because I had that same motivation.

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: Right.

Speaker 1: The chip on your shoulder.

Speaker 2: Yeah, that whole thing. That takes you up to a certain level. But then that also drags you down a little bit because no one ever expected that of you. Right. And so, whatever you've done gets you to this next level. And so then I found this next, next level.

Speaker 1: I like that. That's an important topic. Right? Like you're running a race and you beat your time and that was way better than you should have done. It's kind of like when one time I said to you, I was talking about some of my habit or, and you're like, yeah, but who are you comparing to?

Speaker 2: Exactly.

Speaker 1: It's the same thing.

Speaker 2: Exactly. It's the same exact thing. So, that gets you to a certain level. And I think you do have that'why' and that drive. But I don't know if it's this event in your life or some other event in your life, might end up catapulting you up--

Speaker 1: Yeah.

Speaker 2: --a higher level.

Speaker 1: Yeah. Did you talk about work more before you, would you talk with work about--

Speaker 2: With who?

Speaker 1: --with your wife, like in your family, at home?

Speaker 2: I think I did.

Speaker 1: Before?

Speaker 2: Before.

Speaker 1: But now you have kids.

Speaker 2: Mm- hmm( affirmative).

Speaker 1: It doesn't.

Speaker 2: No. No. I think that's funny. No one's ever asked me that, but that's true. I did talk about work more before and since then, my daughter's going to be 12 in a couple of weeks. Happy birthday, CJ and...

Speaker 1: 12? Man.

Speaker 2: Crazy huh?

Speaker 1: Crazy.

Speaker 2: So, she's going to be 12. Since then, I've never, in the last 12 years, I haven't really talked to about work. I don't talk about work at home.

Speaker 1: Cause you'd go home and... The best part is, you people don't see this, but. So we use this app'helpful' for internal communication.

Speaker 2: Helpful. com website.

Speaker 1: DC is always sending videos in the morning. And.

Speaker 2: Just one or two.

Speaker 1: He's in the front seat of his car.

Speaker 2: I think I might've sent you like eight or nine this morning.

Speaker 1: This morning you went HAM. You went nuts. I was like... Even out of the house? I was taking out the garbage, the on the way the gym at 6:30AM and I already had 15 messages,

Speaker 2: Oh man. I hit up everyone today.

Speaker 1: Everyone.

Speaker 2: Even Amanda Yi. The designer on your team. I'm was hitting her this morning. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Everyone got a.

Speaker 1: crosstalk So, I want to make this like a meme. We got to try to find it. But your son, how old he your son? Five?

Speaker 2: Yeah. Five.

Speaker 1: He's in the backseat of the car.

Speaker 2: Yeah.M.

Speaker 1: And he's in the car seat and he's just mocking you the whole time.

Speaker 2: That's what happens when you have a kid.

Speaker 1: You're like, so DG, here's the thing. We got to be leveling up in this area and he's in the back going.

Speaker 2: And he's going. Yeah. And making signs behind my head and stuff like that.

Speaker 1: It's so good? All right. So we'll do fan love of the week.

Speaker 2: All right.

Speaker 1: Your call to action--

Speaker 2: Has it worked?

Speaker 1: --worked.

Speaker 2: Okay. What's going on?

Speaker 1: Well, let me tell you this. Here's the review. This is not even random. This is the most recent review.

Speaker 2: Okay.

Speaker 1: This is the most recent review. Yesterday. Five stars for Dave, David and Amy, five stars. And a million hearts for DHD. Shout out, Nathan Will G. People listen, people can't figure out direct response marketing, but we can say a name on a podcast and.

Speaker 2: crosstalk Okay. But we still don't have a thousand reviews. Do we? Count. Is it a thousand then?

Speaker 1: It's not a thousand. 255.

Speaker 2: Okay. All right.

Speaker 1: This is okay. I'm going to hit you another one because this is so good. Six stars coming at you, Dave and DC. The six star thing is really catching on. If you don't want to achieve something meaningful, you're listening to the wrong podcast. Boom. Let's go.

Speaker 2: That's it? I sent, DG this interchange that was happening between two seeking wisdom listeners, the other day. It was amazing.

Speaker 1: Unbelievable.

Speaker 2: Someone said a quote about leaving five stars on Twitter, I think it was. And then someone replied, who I didn't know and said like... Or six stars.

Speaker 1: Yeah. Unbelievable. All right. So look, if you're liking this podcast, which I know you are, there's a lot of you out there. Six stars only, come see us in person.'Hypergrowth'. This fall. The'seeking wisdom' Community will be there.

Speaker 2: September 25th.

Speaker 1: And by the time this podcast comes out, we're going to have dropped, one, two, three, about 15 speakers.

Speaker 2: 15 new speakers?

Speaker 1: 15 new speakers. And maybe some people you might've heard of, like the CMO at ClassPass.

Speaker 2: crosstalk

Speaker 1: I know ClassPass pass is a thing. I mean people are, use ClassPass, right? That's a popular thing. The VP of sales at Trello is another popular company.

Speaker 2: crosstalk.

Speaker 1: The VP of marketing at Box. So, these are a couple of companies that you've heard them. I'm giving away too many. I'm going to stop right now. I don't know why you're not going to come see us.

Speaker 2: Okay. September 25th. Get your ticket.'Hypergrowth','seeking wisdom', promo code, on your way after you check out on that. Leave six star reviews. Shout out Amy, THD. Give DG a little bit of love.

Speaker 1: No love. No, I don't want it.

Speaker 2: Not too much. It goes straight to the head. And, and we'll see you at'Hypergrowth'.

Speaker 1: All Right?

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