30: Be Careful Who You Take Advice From [Five Minute Friday]
Dave: It's Five Minute Friday here on Seeking Wisdom.
Speaker 2: Friday, let's get it.
Dave: A new little format we're going to do. So I'm going to just take you into the weekend, and today's topic is all about advice.
Speaker 2: Be careful who you take advice from.
Dave: So this is something you told me last week. I shared a little something with you, and you said," This is a lesson you got to start to learn. You need to be careful whose advice you take."
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative).
Speaker 2: Right.
Dave: What's the framework for taking advice? Give me the...
Speaker 2: This is a good one.
Speaker 2: This is hard. Everyone wants to give advice, so you need to be careful whose advice you take. You need to make sure that the person you're getting advice from has actually delivered results in the area that you're asking that you need help in or you're asking advice for. And that's rarely the case. So like you're not going to ask your boy who is broke, dead broke, for financial advice.
Speaker 2: But that dead broke friend of yours probably has given you financial advice.
Dave: So this is related to another thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Dave: Which is like this whole, what'd you call it? You called it knowers, seekers, and masters.
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative). Masters, yeah.
Dave: Right? It kind of relates to that, right? Everybody's out there giving advice.
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm(affirmative).
Dave: But the best people really say, mm- hmm( affirmative), yep. I got you. But you only really take to heart the advice of the people that you want to be like, role models.
Speaker 2: Exactly. Role models. If you want to get better at something, go seek out the person or persons who are achieving results that are 10 times what you're trying to achieve. And you go to those people, and you try to find them, whether it's through books, whether it's in person, whether it's through role models, and you try to learn from them. You're not going to take, CrossFit advice from your cousin who is 100 pounds overweight, sits on the couch and has never done anything athletic in their life.
Speaker 2: As funny as that sounds, that's exactly what we do in the other parts of our life.
Dave: Every day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we take advice from people who are your friends, and they're great, and their family, but they've never achieved the result that you're trying to go after.
Dave: You always say," Simple, not easy."
Speaker 2: Exactly. This is one of those simple, not easy, lessons because you're around these people, and it's like I said before, like we've talked about, it's hard for humans to filter out stuff. And so the more you're exposed to these people, the more that even unconsciously, you're going to take their advice.
Dave: And it's hard because it feels like every time you start to do something meaningful, you're going to get all these people from all directions saying like, ah, I would have done it this way. I would've made it this way. Right?
Speaker 2: Uh, yeah, those are knowers, right? They know everything. They know the secret, except they've never implemented it themselves, right? They have no results to show. And so has that ever happened to you, Dave? Have you ever been off trying something new and someone...
Dave: I started at Drift in October.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Dave: It's been just growing ever since. It's that it's an endless stop.
Speaker 2: What's been growing?
Dave: It's every day I have emails in my inbox from people that haven't really done anything but are telling me the way that I should be doing it.
Speaker 2: Ah, that's so weird. That actually happens?
Dave: It is weird. But it's directly related to the growth that we're seeing at the company.
Speaker 2: Mm- hmm( affirmative).
Dave: Which is interesting, right? So obviously, we're doing something right.
Speaker 2: It's funny. Dave and I talk each day, and I remember just talking about, just get ready. You're going to get the haters. You're going to get these people who reach out.
Dave: So, it's funny. I'm working on a presentation. I'm giving a talk at Inbound in November. I got my outline, and it's due next week because I don't know. That's why.
Speaker 2: That's amazing.
Dave: And I took an actual screenshot of my inbox, and it was an email that I sent. And back- to- back emails, one of the emails said," Dave, oh my God, you are the best at writing email. You make my week every time I get your emails. This was amazing."
Speaker 2: Wow.
Dave: Directly below that says," Dave, you're a f- ing idiot. Please unsubscribe me."
Speaker 2: That's it, right there, man. You should frame that.
Dave: No, no, no, I am. So I'm going to end my talk with a screenshot, and it's going to go back to your thing, which is hug your haters.
Speaker 2: Hug your haters. Gotta hug? I'm looking for haters. Anyone want to apply? There's no haters on this podcast.
Speaker 2: But I'm looking for haters because you got to get out there and get some of those haters and get used to it. And you know, part of those haters are going to be people that you know who are going to try to give you advice and say, ah, Dave, I wouldn't write it that way. Ah, Dave, you know, you shouldn't live so much weight. Ah, Dave, slow down. Man, it's Fridays. Live for Fridays, man. Why are you working so hard, man?
Dave: Yeah. But to your point, until one of those people is one of the people that you aspire to be, don't listen.
Speaker 2: Yep. Don't listen. Tune it out. Be happy, have fun with them. You don't have to take them out of your life but only listen to those people who've achieved the results that you're going after.
Dave: All right, that's Five Minute Friday. We will see you next week. And we're back at it with a book review.
Speaker 2: Five- star reviews only. Let's blow this up.
Dave: Oh yeah. Blow it up. Come on. Over 10, 000 downloads a month now, 100 plus five- star reviews on iTunes.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Dave: Please keep giving us the love. I like doing this, and the more five- star reviews we get, the more I get to keep grabbing this guy and bringing him on the podcast.
Speaker 2: I see you over there. I see you. I know you haven't left a five- star review. Come on. Do it now. Nope, not later. Come on. All right, now.
Dave: All right. We're out of here. Have a good weekend.
Speaker 2: See ya. I'm looking for haters. Anyone want to apply?